Have you run top or mtop or phpsysinfo to actually see what your scripts are using ??
this command i need to run in the commande line? i cannot access my root right now. i only have couple of seconds to check my server after i make a reboot then its down again

It probably is oversold but showing the host proof before being asked to be moved is always a good start.
well i dont know about this


I managed to run the Top before i went down
Code: 
top - 11:04:10 up 1 min,  1 user,  load average: 26.31, 7.38, 2.53
Tasks: 222 total,   1 running, 221 sleeping,   0 stopped,   0 zombie
Cpu(s):  3.2%us,  1.6%sy,  0.0%ni,  0.0%id, 95.2%wa,  0.0%hi,  0.0%si,  0.0%st
Mem:   1914992k total,  1860536k used,    54456k free,     1136k buffers
Swap:  4194296k total,    46896k used,  4147400k free,    24500k cached
Code: 
top - 11:41:18 up 5 min,  1 user,  load average: 99.54, 49.76, 20.48
Tasks: 446 total,   1 running, 445 sleeping,   0 stopped,   0 zombie
Cpu(s):  1.8%us,  2.6%sy,  0.0%ni,  0.0%id, 95.5%wa,  0.0%hi,  0.0%si,  0.0%s
Mem:   1914992k total,  1861692k used,    53300k free,     1860k buffers
Swap:  4194296k total,  2609388k used,  1584908k free,    21376k cached
But i cannot understand this